Loneliness

I’ve found that when the wrenching hole in my life left by Steve’s sudden death threatens to overpower me, I need to take action and not isolate myself. Calling an old friend and suggesting coffee or even a bit of pampering in the massage chair at the nail salon can help. Even better is to seek out others who have also lost a spouse. Friends or family, a grief counselor, your church or even Googling “grief support” on the internet can help make a connection with someone who shares a similar experience and can relate to the loneliness.

This desolation comes with enormous loss. I find connecting with other widows or widowers helps me gain perspective and appreciate the many other fulfilling aspects of my life on which to concentrate. It helps make the gaping hole of loss seem less insurmountable.